The question pretty much says it all. A friend of mine (who is a minor and lives at home) is gay, and hadn't came out yet to his parents. They recently found out on their own that he's gay and are not very accepting of the gay community. How can I help him get through this?What advice can I give a friend whose parents found out he's gay and are taking it poorly?
You have some excellent answers on this one. I thought I might add a link that may help. It's listed as the source below. PFLAG is an organization dedicated to promoting acceptance, and more importantly embracement. I came out when I was 15. I was kicked out of school, my church and my home. I was lucky though - I had friends and some family that cared enough about me to embrace me for who I am. Your friend is very luck to have someone who cares enough to even ask the question. Hope this helps! :-)What advice can I give a friend whose parents found out he's gay and are taking it poorly?
Tell him to just ride it out. Unless his parents want to talk about where he's sticking his di*k, it shouldn't really come up. And if they want to bring it up he has every right to tell them to just mind where they're sticking their own dix.
I went through a rough time with this myself and really, it's just about his sex life. If he was straight it would be none of their business if he got off on tying a girl up, peeing on her, or dressing up like pirates.
I just want to know exactly where straight parents get off thinking thier gay offspring owe it to them to discuss their sex life.
If they are not open about it than they have just cut themselves out of a part of his life. How many straight people discuss such intimate details with their parents? He should just not talk to them about his sex life. Most straight people don't have to discuss such intimate details! Tell him to talk about the weather or something. If they are such bigots then small talk about the weather is all they deserve.
Being there for him is the most important thing you can do. He's definitely going to need a sympathetic ear. It's unfortunate that he's a minor, because it means that his parents can do with him what they want, even if that means sending him off to one of those ';ex-gay ministries.'; I hope that things haven't yet progressed to that level.
I find it a tragedy that gay men feel they must inform their parents of their own private sexuality. It is not necessary. Your sex life is your own, parents are not comfortable with talking of any sex with their children, let alone being gay. A gay person must learn to accept themselves for who they are, and not depend on the acceptance of their parents. Never tell your parents you are gay unless they specifically ask you. Even then, it is none of their business, any more than it is the child's business how often the parents are having sex, or what kind of sex the parents do. Your private sex life, irregardless of your age, is yours, and yours alone. Tell him to stop expecting his parents to accept him. They never will. It is he must learn to accept himself..then his life will be fulfilled.
it will run it course sometimes is long and windy, or short and wild. if the parent has true unconditional love like a good parent should for their child they will eventually love him for what he truly is, and accept that there is nothing wrong with him. The parents shouldnt be thinking about theirselves in this situation. Its not easy being gay.
Continue to be extremely supportive and hopefully his parents will soften up. Remember they are entitled to their views but hopefully they will not push your friend away and still remember that he is their son. It can be hard on a parent but I think that both parties just really have to come together. You are a good friend for caring so much.
Just make sure he knows that you are there for him and just make sure that when your with him you have fun so he doesnt have to think about his parents.
They should being to understand after a while.
tell him to tell his family that if they love him they will accept and love him wholly.
Monday, August 23, 2010
Any advice to stop a rabbit from eating my lawn?
The rabbit is creating some serious damage to my lawn, any advice would be appreciated.Any advice to stop a rabbit from eating my lawn?
blood and bone and its a good fertiliser rabbits hate itAny advice to stop a rabbit from eating my lawn?
A shotgun works well.
12 gauge No 6 shot will work very well
Shoot the mother f*****
A69
Go to the hunting section at your local Walmart or equivalent. Look for hunters cover scent ';Fox urine'; (yeah I know). Sprinkle around the edge of the area you wish to keep the critter out of.
How a bout a shotgun and a recipe book?
Moth ball's they hate it.
Pellet Gun
shoot it, buy a dog to eat it. chemical repellant.
blood and bone and its a good fertiliser rabbits hate itAny advice to stop a rabbit from eating my lawn?
A shotgun works well.
12 gauge No 6 shot will work very well
Shoot the mother f*****
A69
Go to the hunting section at your local Walmart or equivalent. Look for hunters cover scent ';Fox urine'; (yeah I know). Sprinkle around the edge of the area you wish to keep the critter out of.
How a bout a shotgun and a recipe book?
Moth ball's they hate it.
Pellet Gun
shoot it, buy a dog to eat it. chemical repellant.
Any advice on wolfcraft mastercut 1000 work bench?
What do you need to know... if it's a good buy or what
edit, we have one at work to use when we're routering etc . i't's very sturdy and practical, but you should shop around as we got ours in screwfix but a mate at work said it was cheaper elsewhereAny advice on wolfcraft mastercut 1000 work bench?
dont let me anywhere near it Any advice on wolfcraft mastercut 1000 work bench?
box it up and send it to meconcealer
edit, we have one at work to use when we're routering etc . i't's very sturdy and practical, but you should shop around as we got ours in screwfix but a mate at work said it was cheaper elsewhereAny advice on wolfcraft mastercut 1000 work bench?
dont let me anywhere near it Any advice on wolfcraft mastercut 1000 work bench?
box it up and send it to me
Is there any particular guideline for writing an advice book?
If you want a meaningful answer you're going to need to be far more specific with your question. What kind of advice book? What kind of guidelines? Literary guidelines? Structural guidelines? Stategic guidelines? etc etc etc....
Any advice about reducing noises coming from outside?
I live in an apartment close to a restaurant. The window of my bedroom it's near the restaurant too. From the end of 2004 a a legal process was started and after 4 months the noise stopped. Since november 2006 the noise returned and a new legal process was started against the restaurant. The legal process has been very slow and the noise continues. I'm tired of waiting. The restaurant with it's air extractor produces a noise I hate during all day and night. What can be done to isolate the noise coming from outside, during nights? I already know about earplugs and fans. Is there anything else you know about than can be used?
What insulating material can be used? Any advice?
Has it ever happened to you?Any advice about reducing noises coming from outside?
Usually, the transmission path of the noise is through the window as it's the lightest (least dense and thinnest) component in the wall.
If it's an option, you should be able to reduce the noise coming through by upgrading the windows (eg double glazing).
If you're renting and that's not an option, then installing some dense, noise-reducing material over the window (this means keeping it shut) should reduce the noise. There are plenty of products on the market for noise reduction (eg Wavebar). If putting this over just the window doesn't reduce it enough, then you could look at covering the entire wall.
Either way it means keeping the window shut so you will need to give some consideration to mechanical ventilation if you don't already have air-conditioning.Any advice about reducing noises coming from outside?
As tacky as it'll look, egg cartons. The paper ones, not Styrofoam. You just glue them all together and cover your walls/windows and it blocks almost all sounds out. (I put them on my ceiling when I lived below people and it blocked a lot of the sound out.)
Yo Carlos
at almost any home improvement store -- they have these foam panels for insulation that come in 4' x 8' sheets and in varying thickness from approximately 1 / 4 inch to around an inch and a half !! They usually have a ';silverized'; side and are in the insolation department !! They are extremely inexpensive and can be ';scored'; and snapped off to any dimensions within the panels size !!
To insulate the exposed wall (the exterior wall facing this problem that you have) with the thickest of these panels -- should show a MAJOR reduction in the sound coming in !!
Now, one could even fit a couple of these into the window frame (the thicker application being necessary simply because the thickness of the window itself is considerable thinner than the wall) and, then thick curtains could be placed over this to FURTHER reduce the sound getting in !!!
This is the best that I know of to help out here --- the best of luck to you for I'm sure that this has been an extreme annoyance and getting a solution here will probably enhance your life a thousand percent !!!!
Go to Lowe's, or Home Desperate. You are looking for Dow foam board. It is blue, and comes in varying thickness. Put a 1'; thick piece over your window, (cut tight to fit), and some 1/2'; thick sheets over your exterior walls.
You will probably notice a difference in your utility bill also, offsetting some of the cost.
Move.
you can hang fabric on your walls with bating behind to help check out www.hgtv.com and they should have something to show you how to hang fabric
Since you are in an apartment rather than a home you are buying or own (unless you are buying the apartment?) you can try going to a discount or goodwill store and buying several pillows and fixing them over the window to block out more sound.
If you don't like the pillows idea, try a doubble or tripple layer of mattresses from a baby bed or play pen. They should block out a good bit of the sound but on the down side, you won't be able to open the wiindows. considering the noise though, you probably haven't had the windows open in a good while any way.
What insulating material can be used? Any advice?
Has it ever happened to you?Any advice about reducing noises coming from outside?
Usually, the transmission path of the noise is through the window as it's the lightest (least dense and thinnest) component in the wall.
If it's an option, you should be able to reduce the noise coming through by upgrading the windows (eg double glazing).
If you're renting and that's not an option, then installing some dense, noise-reducing material over the window (this means keeping it shut) should reduce the noise. There are plenty of products on the market for noise reduction (eg Wavebar). If putting this over just the window doesn't reduce it enough, then you could look at covering the entire wall.
Either way it means keeping the window shut so you will need to give some consideration to mechanical ventilation if you don't already have air-conditioning.Any advice about reducing noises coming from outside?
As tacky as it'll look, egg cartons. The paper ones, not Styrofoam. You just glue them all together and cover your walls/windows and it blocks almost all sounds out. (I put them on my ceiling when I lived below people and it blocked a lot of the sound out.)
Yo Carlos
at almost any home improvement store -- they have these foam panels for insulation that come in 4' x 8' sheets and in varying thickness from approximately 1 / 4 inch to around an inch and a half !! They usually have a ';silverized'; side and are in the insolation department !! They are extremely inexpensive and can be ';scored'; and snapped off to any dimensions within the panels size !!
To insulate the exposed wall (the exterior wall facing this problem that you have) with the thickest of these panels -- should show a MAJOR reduction in the sound coming in !!
Now, one could even fit a couple of these into the window frame (the thicker application being necessary simply because the thickness of the window itself is considerable thinner than the wall) and, then thick curtains could be placed over this to FURTHER reduce the sound getting in !!!
This is the best that I know of to help out here --- the best of luck to you for I'm sure that this has been an extreme annoyance and getting a solution here will probably enhance your life a thousand percent !!!!
Go to Lowe's, or Home Desperate. You are looking for Dow foam board. It is blue, and comes in varying thickness. Put a 1'; thick piece over your window, (cut tight to fit), and some 1/2'; thick sheets over your exterior walls.
You will probably notice a difference in your utility bill also, offsetting some of the cost.
Move.
you can hang fabric on your walls with bating behind to help check out www.hgtv.com and they should have something to show you how to hang fabric
Since you are in an apartment rather than a home you are buying or own (unless you are buying the apartment?) you can try going to a discount or goodwill store and buying several pillows and fixing them over the window to block out more sound.
If you don't like the pillows idea, try a doubble or tripple layer of mattresses from a baby bed or play pen. They should block out a good bit of the sound but on the down side, you won't be able to open the wiindows. considering the noise though, you probably haven't had the windows open in a good while any way.
Need advice on good places to vacation for skiing?
We're a group of 4 college students hoping to go on a ski vacation. We're from Cleveland, Ohio, and hope to travel less than 10 hours wherever we go to (we're driving). We need a place with a hill for advanced skiers and another for beginners. We also need it to not be too expensive of an area. Any recommendations for what ski places we should hit up?Need advice on good places to vacation for skiing?
Your best bet is most likely Seven Springs in southwestern PA. Snowshoe in West Virginia would also be an OK bet. I haven't been to Seven Springs in years. Snowshoe wouldn't be too bad either. I've never been there but I think it has more trails to offer.
Blue Mountain and Elk Mountain are both in eastern PA. They are both very similar in terrain and amenities. I prefer Elk because you don't have to ski over the same terrain over and over again to get to different runs, but the two resorts are about the best in eastern PA.
Gore Mountain in New York is about 8.5 hours away. If you are looking for a longer trip then I would suggest this or push a little further on to Vermont and hit Killington or Okemo. Western NY and most PA resorts are good for a full day of skiing. If you are looking for a destination, these are not what you want. You'll be bored by day #2, at least at Gore or most of the VT resorts there are plenty of slopes to occupy your time over a mult-day period.
Tremblant in Quebec is just over 10 hours away. Just another option I'll throw out there.
As for cheap...well, you can save on lift tix by buying ahead of time and by using some of the special deals. Many resorts will offer student discounts, so dig around on the websites and you can usually find a deal. Chances are you are going to do this trip over the holiday break or at some other time when a lot of other people also have off...that means deals are scarce. So dig deep. You might score up some multi-day tix and you can always skimp on the hotel room and slum it at the Inn of the Dancing Shiva when slopeside condos are not in the budget.
Consider the Road Trip and hit up a few resorts over a few days. You may be able to get a deal on Monday one place and Tuesday at another. I do this often. My January trip this year will take me to Smuggler's Notch VT one day, Mad River Glen VT the next day, and Stratton VT the next. We are still debating hitting Hunter or Windham NY on day 4. Regardless, the most we are going to pay for a day ticket will be $12 based on the deals we have. These aren't even industry deals...they are out there for everyone. You just have to know where to get them and be able to manipulate your schedule to make the time when the deals occur. Need advice on good places to vacation for skiing?
For a 10 hr drive you'd have to go somewhere east. West would be best, but for CO, you're looking at closer to a 20+ hr drive. Anyways, this place looks pretty decent in Pennsylvania: Blue Mountain Ski Area http://www.skibluemt.com/SkiBlue/index.a鈥?/a>
Mapquest says they're just over 6 hrs from Cleveland.
You could also make it to Vermont in 10 hrs according to this resort's website. http://www.killington.com/winter/index.h鈥?/a> I believe Vermont has the best skiing out east.
Go to Colorado....ski Monarch, it's the cheapest in Colorado that I know of (I've been skiing in CO for a long time, and that's what I found). It has GREAT snow, really. THe trails are amazing for all levels. It is the local's fave skiing spot and many college aged people too! If you all want to drive that far, then ski Monarch!
Your best bet is most likely Seven Springs in southwestern PA. Snowshoe in West Virginia would also be an OK bet. I haven't been to Seven Springs in years. Snowshoe wouldn't be too bad either. I've never been there but I think it has more trails to offer.
Blue Mountain and Elk Mountain are both in eastern PA. They are both very similar in terrain and amenities. I prefer Elk because you don't have to ski over the same terrain over and over again to get to different runs, but the two resorts are about the best in eastern PA.
Gore Mountain in New York is about 8.5 hours away. If you are looking for a longer trip then I would suggest this or push a little further on to Vermont and hit Killington or Okemo. Western NY and most PA resorts are good for a full day of skiing. If you are looking for a destination, these are not what you want. You'll be bored by day #2, at least at Gore or most of the VT resorts there are plenty of slopes to occupy your time over a mult-day period.
Tremblant in Quebec is just over 10 hours away. Just another option I'll throw out there.
As for cheap...well, you can save on lift tix by buying ahead of time and by using some of the special deals. Many resorts will offer student discounts, so dig around on the websites and you can usually find a deal. Chances are you are going to do this trip over the holiday break or at some other time when a lot of other people also have off...that means deals are scarce. So dig deep. You might score up some multi-day tix and you can always skimp on the hotel room and slum it at the Inn of the Dancing Shiva when slopeside condos are not in the budget.
Consider the Road Trip and hit up a few resorts over a few days. You may be able to get a deal on Monday one place and Tuesday at another. I do this often. My January trip this year will take me to Smuggler's Notch VT one day, Mad River Glen VT the next day, and Stratton VT the next. We are still debating hitting Hunter or Windham NY on day 4. Regardless, the most we are going to pay for a day ticket will be $12 based on the deals we have. These aren't even industry deals...they are out there for everyone. You just have to know where to get them and be able to manipulate your schedule to make the time when the deals occur. Need advice on good places to vacation for skiing?
For a 10 hr drive you'd have to go somewhere east. West would be best, but for CO, you're looking at closer to a 20+ hr drive. Anyways, this place looks pretty decent in Pennsylvania: Blue Mountain Ski Area http://www.skibluemt.com/SkiBlue/index.a鈥?/a>
Mapquest says they're just over 6 hrs from Cleveland.
You could also make it to Vermont in 10 hrs according to this resort's website. http://www.killington.com/winter/index.h鈥?/a> I believe Vermont has the best skiing out east.
Go to Colorado....ski Monarch, it's the cheapest in Colorado that I know of (I've been skiing in CO for a long time, and that's what I found). It has GREAT snow, really. THe trails are amazing for all levels. It is the local's fave skiing spot and many college aged people too! If you all want to drive that far, then ski Monarch!
What advice would you give someone about bringing up their child?
It can be anything from the littlest thing to the biggest thing. Tell me your opinions and advice on bringing up a child (preferably at a toddler age). Thanks!What advice would you give someone about bringing up their child?
People are all different, The way you think is right will be completely different to what someone else thinks is right. The advice I would give would be that however angry you get never put your child down, don't call him or her stupid etc, always be encouraging when your child learns/wants to learn new things.
The best thing you can give your child in the world is Love.
Everyone has the ability to be a good Mum and as long as you show your child love and support throughout their lives you would have succeeded.What advice would you give someone about bringing up their child?
let your yes mean yes and your no mean no.start now and you should not have to deal with a little monster.i have two kids 11%26amp;9 because i spanked them when they were small now for the most part i don't have to.every once in awail i do but they know how to act around people,and they respect others too.if your husban or baby's daddy is with you make sure you two show a united front even you you disagery don't show it i front of the child.kids are not dumb they pick-up on things like that and will use it.also make reading importand spend the time to read to them and let the try to read to you it is time well spent and a chance to bond with your child. good luck,have fun,be safe.
Bringing up a child, despite what many say, can not be learned from a book or a CD that you pop into the CD player. Hey, my parents didn't have books or Cd's, hell, they wouldn't have been able to afford them even if they were around. I tried to read Dr. Spook, Spark, whatever his name was, back in 77 when I first became pregnant with my first daughter, and even though I was only 15, the crap he wrote, well, lets just say it did not fit my agenda. Bring a child up right in the way you want them to perceive their surroundings and the world, children learn from you the parent, everything, good and bad, which is the way a child should be taught, the right things to do and say and the wrong things not to do and say. Example and your heart-filled love and understanding, with this you should not go wrong - listening to others and their stories, well, you pick and choose which you prefer, but in all love has a lot to do with it - hand this out freely and you will have a wonderful person on your hands, for life. God Bless.
I agree with daisy. Also no sippy cups, real (plastic) cups, no pull ups, they don't help much with ';training';, teach him/her that when you say no, you mean no, not maybe. Don't negotiate with child before 5 or 6 or 7. You are the authority figure, you do indeed know what's best. Play with them a lot, hold them a lot, read a lot.
whatever you want,its your kid.thats what i say when asked.and i also tell people to ignore those other parents who try to tell you how to raise your kids.
Have a stance. Kids need direction, and you can't provide that if you have no particular views on anything. They won't learn appropriate ways of arguing or defending their position if they don't see you doing it. Then there's their moral upbringing. I personally would rather my daughter learns her morals from me, rather than her peer group! They need to learn which values are ';musts'; and which will be negotiable. For example, I could accept my daughter growing up to be a right wing voter (her dad and I are greens) but promiscuious or any other skanky behaviour is not in the least bit negotiable! I think ';agreeing to disagree'; is a good thing for kids to learn too.
time and love - give him lots of hugs, tell him you love him, praise him when he is good, give him lots of time playing, reading with him, talking to him, all this is important - please dont just sit him in front of a dvd watching childrens tv alone - enjoy your time with this child - it goes far to quick and you dont get these times back - good luck
Try to cultivate reading habit, give some colourful books to play.
Talk to them like little adults....explain everything properly...don't lie....they learn SO much so quickly before the age of 7. Those early years are their formative ones..the years before they are 7 are the ones which decide who they will be and how they feel about themselves for the rest of their lives...spend time with them...stay at home and be there for them....the years fly by and you will never again get the chance to be at home with that baby.
Love them! Give them lots of attention and spend time with them! Start discipline early, because too often people don't get a grip until the child is so set in their way that it's very difficult to correct bad behavior. Teach them to respect others, too many kids are disrespectful to their teachers and other adults. If your child feels loved and can respect others, they will turn out just fine!
to always put there child first
dont restrict your child from everything, give them some freedom and space. Teach them a understanding of things around them so they are knowledgeable about them and know what to do, and most importantly, give them fair disciplines rather then over the top.
And for the parent, dont forget what it was like to be a teen. Alot of parents do, and that makes it alot harder to understand teenagers, cos they forget what it was like themselves.
be patient, everything is about patience. Raising a child is not an exact science but if you have patience you can manage just about anything.
Don't shame them. Don't use negative criticism. Don't let them have their way because you are really tired, if the answer should be no make it a firm no. If you blow it, apologize to your child and explain why you were wrong.
Encourage them to problem solve and think for themselves.
Instill a love for learning in them.
When you feel like choking them look at the humor in the situation so you can cope.
Love their faces off you can't spoil them by loving them too much.
Kids are spoiled by of lack of limits and overindulgence not love.
Never tell them they are bad, stupid, etc.
If they say or do something bad, tell them it is a bad thing to say or do. That way they know the behavior was bad, but don't see themselves as bad.
If you choose to spank them do it on their bottoms only, don't slap faces or mouths it is humiliating and shows them your lack of self control. Spank or don't spank for an offense, the correction should be consistent every time. Really decide what is a spanking offense and what isn't. Spank them before you get mad not after letting them push you there.
If you have a short fuse and can't do that, don't use spanking as an option.
If you scream pretty soon they will tune that out as well so don't yell and carry on. Remember who is or should be in control. Again if you blow it, apologize, they really need to know its you, not them.
People are all different, The way you think is right will be completely different to what someone else thinks is right. The advice I would give would be that however angry you get never put your child down, don't call him or her stupid etc, always be encouraging when your child learns/wants to learn new things.
The best thing you can give your child in the world is Love.
Everyone has the ability to be a good Mum and as long as you show your child love and support throughout their lives you would have succeeded.What advice would you give someone about bringing up their child?
let your yes mean yes and your no mean no.start now and you should not have to deal with a little monster.i have two kids 11%26amp;9 because i spanked them when they were small now for the most part i don't have to.every once in awail i do but they know how to act around people,and they respect others too.if your husban or baby's daddy is with you make sure you two show a united front even you you disagery don't show it i front of the child.kids are not dumb they pick-up on things like that and will use it.also make reading importand spend the time to read to them and let the try to read to you it is time well spent and a chance to bond with your child. good luck,have fun,be safe.
Bringing up a child, despite what many say, can not be learned from a book or a CD that you pop into the CD player. Hey, my parents didn't have books or Cd's, hell, they wouldn't have been able to afford them even if they were around. I tried to read Dr. Spook, Spark, whatever his name was, back in 77 when I first became pregnant with my first daughter, and even though I was only 15, the crap he wrote, well, lets just say it did not fit my agenda. Bring a child up right in the way you want them to perceive their surroundings and the world, children learn from you the parent, everything, good and bad, which is the way a child should be taught, the right things to do and say and the wrong things not to do and say. Example and your heart-filled love and understanding, with this you should not go wrong - listening to others and their stories, well, you pick and choose which you prefer, but in all love has a lot to do with it - hand this out freely and you will have a wonderful person on your hands, for life. God Bless.
I agree with daisy. Also no sippy cups, real (plastic) cups, no pull ups, they don't help much with ';training';, teach him/her that when you say no, you mean no, not maybe. Don't negotiate with child before 5 or 6 or 7. You are the authority figure, you do indeed know what's best. Play with them a lot, hold them a lot, read a lot.
whatever you want,its your kid.thats what i say when asked.and i also tell people to ignore those other parents who try to tell you how to raise your kids.
Have a stance. Kids need direction, and you can't provide that if you have no particular views on anything. They won't learn appropriate ways of arguing or defending their position if they don't see you doing it. Then there's their moral upbringing. I personally would rather my daughter learns her morals from me, rather than her peer group! They need to learn which values are ';musts'; and which will be negotiable. For example, I could accept my daughter growing up to be a right wing voter (her dad and I are greens) but promiscuious or any other skanky behaviour is not in the least bit negotiable! I think ';agreeing to disagree'; is a good thing for kids to learn too.
time and love - give him lots of hugs, tell him you love him, praise him when he is good, give him lots of time playing, reading with him, talking to him, all this is important - please dont just sit him in front of a dvd watching childrens tv alone - enjoy your time with this child - it goes far to quick and you dont get these times back - good luck
Try to cultivate reading habit, give some colourful books to play.
Talk to them like little adults....explain everything properly...don't lie....they learn SO much so quickly before the age of 7. Those early years are their formative ones..the years before they are 7 are the ones which decide who they will be and how they feel about themselves for the rest of their lives...spend time with them...stay at home and be there for them....the years fly by and you will never again get the chance to be at home with that baby.
Love them! Give them lots of attention and spend time with them! Start discipline early, because too often people don't get a grip until the child is so set in their way that it's very difficult to correct bad behavior. Teach them to respect others, too many kids are disrespectful to their teachers and other adults. If your child feels loved and can respect others, they will turn out just fine!
to always put there child first
dont restrict your child from everything, give them some freedom and space. Teach them a understanding of things around them so they are knowledgeable about them and know what to do, and most importantly, give them fair disciplines rather then over the top.
And for the parent, dont forget what it was like to be a teen. Alot of parents do, and that makes it alot harder to understand teenagers, cos they forget what it was like themselves.
be patient, everything is about patience. Raising a child is not an exact science but if you have patience you can manage just about anything.
Don't shame them. Don't use negative criticism. Don't let them have their way because you are really tired, if the answer should be no make it a firm no. If you blow it, apologize to your child and explain why you were wrong.
Encourage them to problem solve and think for themselves.
Instill a love for learning in them.
When you feel like choking them look at the humor in the situation so you can cope.
Love their faces off you can't spoil them by loving them too much.
Kids are spoiled by of lack of limits and overindulgence not love.
Never tell them they are bad, stupid, etc.
If they say or do something bad, tell them it is a bad thing to say or do. That way they know the behavior was bad, but don't see themselves as bad.
If you choose to spank them do it on their bottoms only, don't slap faces or mouths it is humiliating and shows them your lack of self control. Spank or don't spank for an offense, the correction should be consistent every time. Really decide what is a spanking offense and what isn't. Spank them before you get mad not after letting them push you there.
If you have a short fuse and can't do that, don't use spanking as an option.
If you scream pretty soon they will tune that out as well so don't yell and carry on. Remember who is or should be in control. Again if you blow it, apologize, they really need to know its you, not them.
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